There are few things as satisfying as buying something for yourself. Sure, sure it’s great to receive a gift, but spending your own money for something you really want (and having your own money in order to do it) is downright powerful. It’s what happens when you take control of your own fashion destiny, and your life destiny as well. When I was 13 years old, the only thing I wanted in LIFE was pair of Calvin Klein jeans. I’m going back a couple of decades, and trust me when I tell you they were the “it” denim of the day. Since I went to a school with a no-jeans policy, my mother wouldn’t get them for me . I may have been young, but those jeans were going to be mine. Somehow. Some way. The only way I was going to make it happen was to buy them for myself, and so what started as a frustrating lesson in motherly frugality turned into a major fashion life lesson: You want it? You buy it. Take a listen to this clip from my show last week, when I talked about Barbara from Buffalo who learned her fashion life lesson over a fur coat.